You know when you have a truly tough week? You could actually call it a horrible week. When you are sitting there thinking is this really happening because you know you’ve done nothing wrong, but the actions and words the person is saying to you are cutting you like a knife. You were totally blindsided by things happening and things that were said behind your back because it's all smiles when you are around. Well the start of the week was one of those weeks for me! Well I say

Guest writer alert! It’s not your usual writer today. Your usual Well of Hearts writer has been busy recently, juggling work, organising women's prayer meetings, attending Bible study, dealing with the school closing early because of the heatwave or not opening at all, going to the endless list of end of year school events and is now battling through the school summer holiday. Quite frankly she is tired and decided that she needed a well deserved break, sipping mocktails on d

As a kid and teenager I watched the TV show Changing Rooms and laughed at some of their “interesting" room designs. If you are too young to remember the show, the idea was neighbours or friends decorated one room in each other’s home and then there was a big reveal. If you watched it, do you remember that episode where they designed the couple’s bedroom head to toe in black and red? During the reveal the woman burst into tears straight away and said it looked like a brothel!

There was a young woman, who at the age of 18, decided that it was time for a change. It wasn’t just any old little change, it was life changing, brave and a bit scary. It meant living behind her family, her friends and everything she knew. It meant moving across the world to another country where she knew no-one to fulfil her lifelong dream. Did she fulfil her dream? Yes she did. How do I know? Because this brave young woman was my nan. My nan at 18 years old decided to mo

One day about 15 years ago my husband said something that I've always kept close to my heart since he said it. We were young twenty somethings, looking up at the sky, it was cloudy and he said when you see grey clouds remember that they will always pass and reveal the blue sky. Since that day, that message has always stuck with me and helped me get through some really tough times. When I wasn't a Christian this sentence was like a mantra to me to help me to keep pushing thro

When are you arranging the next meet up? Can you do me a favour? I need you to tell me what I should do about this? I need your prayers. You have probably heard these sentences from friends and family, which are generally the usual questions and statements we hear from them, nothing wrong with that. However, the issue is when the only time you hear from them is when they are asking questions like this. Some people are only around you because they want the things they can get

If you remember, in my last post “ I just can’t do it ! ” I wrote about the time when Jesus healed the man, who couldn’t walk, by the pool. I then went on to say that Jesus can heal us all too, from whatever we need healing from. It doesn’t have to only be a disability or illness, Jesus can heal us from our past trauma, addictions and bad habits. However when Jesus heals us, as Christians, apart from keeping our faith in Him as our Saviour and our only access to the Father a

I remember being asked by two different people on two separate occasions what I wanted to achieve in a particular area. I gave my answer straight away without even thinking. They both responded with the same answer “so what’s stopping you?”. I stopped to think for a moment and then gave my stock answer. They both asked the same question separately because to them there was no reason why there should be any hesitation around me doing this particular thing. After both interacti

We finally did it! We are finally in the parents hall of fame for forgetting it was a non-uniform day! Yep, my husband and I forgot it was Comic Relief day and therefore a non-uniform day at school. For anyone reading this outside of the UK, Comic Relief is an annual day where there is an all evening charity telethon where money is raised to tackle poverty and social injustice. School children also wear their normal clothes on this day (UK schools have a school uniform) in ex

In the last post “ Wanna hear a joke (part 1) ” we explored all that is narcissism, what it really is, how it develops and how they manipulate. So by now you could be in either the “I never knew all this ” camp or the “ Oh my gosh (insert the name of your toxic person) acts like a narcissist!, what do I do?! ” camp. Well part 2 will explain how to deal with them and how to protect your mind, body and soul from them. So grab your tea or coffee, get comfy and lets get started

Why did the narcissist cross the road? Because they saw a boundary line in the road and knew they had to cross it. Narcissists, narcissists, narcissists, it has been a buzzword for the last few years. Someone annoys you, they are a narcissist, someone challenges you on something you have done wrong then they are a narcissist. As a result of this happening, in my opinion, it has allowed the actual narcissists to get off the hook and continue their reign of terror because the

Picture this, you are in a family that’s so toxic that it’s unreal. There is gossiping, “ Did you hear how Michael got the money for his BMW? ”. There’s secrets upon secrets, you know the saying “ what happens in this family stays in this family ”. There is manipulation “ since he got that girlfriend he doesn’t want to be around us anymore, it’s all her fault! ”. Then there’s controlling behaviour “ I don’t care if you have plans, you need to be here at 7pm! ”. You name it, i

Do you ever get that feeling in the pit of your stomach when talking to someone? It could be an acquaintance you met on the school run who is becoming your friend, it could be that nice person you met at Pilates class, it could be your work colleague or your manager or it could be your long term friend. You get this ever so slight feeling in the pit of your stomach because there was something they said about you that made you stop and think “huh?”. It might not even be someth

There was a woman called Alex and she met a guy called Jordan at her badminton club. He was friendly and good at small talk. As the weeks went on Alex found herself thinking about Jordan more and more, she didn’t actually find him physically attractive and she didn’t even speak to him that much but there was something that made her think about him a lot. Even when she was shattered from a busy week travelling for work and didn’t feel like going to badminton, Alex would still

“ There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens ” - Ecclesiastes 3:1 The final day of our holiday came like a bolt out of the blue. It shouldn’t have really because we all knew the date of our flight home. However, there is a saying that time flies when you are having fun. We were in the sun, waking up when we wanted, not having to rush to do school runs or catch buses or trains to work. We spent the days having fun, visiting places to lear

You may have heard of the recent saga surrounding a family that consists of a very famous ex-footballer and an equally famous former popstar. If you haven’t, then their son exposed them as allegedly being controlling with the family and performative. His mom also allegedly stole his wife's first dance at their wedding. Her son later described this “first wedding dance”, stating that his mom “ danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone. I've never felt more uncomfo

It’s the call with the devastating news that stops time. It’s the discovery that you wish you could just cover back up. It’s the betrayal that cuts like a knife. It’s the rejection that keeps you up at night. It’s the hurt and pain that causes nightmares and flashbacks. It’s these life events that rock our soul and send us into states of depression, anxiety and maladaptive behaviours. Life can be beautiful and fun but it can also be very hard with shattered dreams or poverty

If you use social media you have probably seen the recent Druski skit. Druski is a comedian and his recent skit is him as a mega church pastor. Some people were offended and said he was mocking God. Others said he wasn’t mocking God and weren't offended. Personally I wasn’t offended, I saw the skit as mocking false pastors, not mocking God. Sometimes there is truth in comedy and I think this skit does that. It holds a mirror up to some churches and their pastors and highlight

Assignments, assignments, assignments, it’s one of the buzz words in the Christian community. We ask God to show us how He wants to use us. Then we feel we are called by the Holy Spirit to do a particular thing or go to a particular place. Some people clearly hear the Holy Spirit tell them to do those things. The fun thing about God is He deliberately doesn’t give us the whole place, just snippets of instructions. So we go through a range of emotions, do desperate prayers try

I heard that in the USA there used to be an announcement that came on TV at night that said something along the lines of “it’s 10pm, do you know where your kids are”. I think it was to remind parents that their children should be home from playing out by 10pm. I’m an 80s baby, 90s kid from the UK, so hearing about this made me think about my childhood and the friends I made by playing out. There would be a knock on the door, then I’d hear little familiar voices asking my mom