There was a woman called Alex and she met a guy called Jordan at her badminton club. He was friendly and good at small talk. As the weeks went on Alex found herself thinking about Jordan more and more, she didn’t actually find him physically attractive and she didn’t even speak to him that much but there was something that made her think about him a lot. Even when she was shattered from a busy week travelling for work and didn’t feel like going to badminton, Alex would still

“ There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens ” - Ecclesiastes 3:1 The final day of our holiday came like a bolt out of the blue. It shouldn’t have really because we all knew the date of our flight home. However, there is a saying that time flies when you are having fun. We were in the sun, waking up when we wanted, not having to rush to do school runs or catch buses or trains to work. We spent the days having fun, visiting places to lear

You may have heard of the recent saga surrounding a family that consists of a very famous ex-footballer and an equally famous former popstar. If you haven’t, then their son exposed them as allegedly being controlling with the family and performative. His mom also allegedly stole his wife's first dance at their wedding. Her son later described this “first wedding dance”, stating that his mom “ danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone. I've never felt more uncomfo

It’s the call with the devastating news that stops time. It’s the discovery that you wish you could just cover back up. It’s the betrayal that cuts like a knife. It’s the rejection that keeps you up at night. It’s the hurt and pain that causes nightmares and flashbacks. It’s these life events that rock our soul and send us into states of depression, anxiety and maladaptive behaviours.  Life can be beautiful and fun but it can also be very hard with shattered dreams or poverty

If you use social media you have probably seen the recent Druski skit. Druski is a comedian and his recent skit is him as a mega church pastor. Some people were offended and said he was mocking God. Others said he wasn’t mocking God and weren't offended. Personally I wasn’t offended, I saw the skit as mocking false pastors, not mocking God. Sometimes there is truth in comedy and I think this skit does that. It holds a mirror up to some churches and their pastors and highlight

Assignments, assignments, assignments, it’s one of the buzz words in the Christian community. We ask God to show us how He wants to use us. Then we feel we are called by the Holy Spirit to do a particular thing or go to a particular place. Some people clearly hear the Holy Spirit tell them to do those things. The fun thing about God is He deliberately doesn’t give us the whole place, just snippets of instructions. So we go through a range of emotions, do desperate prayers try

I heard that in the USA there used to be an announcement that came on TV at night that said something along the lines of “it’s 10pm, do you know where your kids are”. I think it was to remind parents that their children should be home from playing out by 10pm.  I’m an 80s baby, 90s kid from the UK, so hearing about this made me think about my childhood and the friends I made by playing out. There would be a knock on the door, then I’d hear little familiar voices asking my mom

Well it’s that time of year, what is called the season of Joy. The nights are drawing in, it’s cold and this year it just won’t stop raining! Now if you are like me, someone who hates being cold and hates rain, especially when it’s constant, then this weather and limited sunlight makes you feel a bit sad rather than joyful. By now you can probably tell that I don’t really like winter! Highlights However even though I’m not a fan of winter, I have to say that I have experience

I saw someone online use Neapolitan ice cream, as an analogy, to explain the Trinity to someone who isn’t a Christian. If you don’t know what Neapolitan ice cream is, it’s made up of one part chocolate flavour, one part strawberry flavour and one part vanilla flavour. I could kind of see where he was trying to go with this but he was actually explaining partialism which isn't what Christians believe. Christian theologians call partialism heresy, which means it’s a belief that

“For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him” . - Philippians 2:13 When we were children, we were all asked the same question “ what do you want to be when you grow up? ” and we would all answer “ when I grow up I’d like to be… ”. When I was a young child I would answer “ when I grow up I’d like to be a lawyer ”. Looking back I didn’t really but I think it was just the first job I thought of. Then in my teens it changed to a social wo

“ I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us ”. Romans 8:18 Music has always been a big part of my life, I would say it was my first love (sorry hubby!). I remember from a young age finding comfort in music, as it allowed me to shut off from the chaotic world around me. I remember music always being played in our house. My music relationship started with reggae being played especially on Sundays. While my mom was

I'm sick of the majority of people being selfish. I’m sick of people being mean and horrible. I’m sick of some people being just plain evil and revelling in it. I’m sick and angry of the stigma around mental health conditions and mental breakdowns. I just want all these people to know they are loved by God even if people judge and dislike them.  I’m sick of people manipulating and hurting people and getting away with it. I’m totally sick of transactional “friendships”. It’s a

Last week we went out to celebrate my son’s big achievement. In the ladies toilet, next to the mirror was a poster for a Halloween event that will be taking place at the establishment. The poster said it will be an “unforgettable evening” with clairvoyants, psychics, mediums and tarot card readers. When I left the toilet and walked back to our table, I noticed that I couldn't see any of those posters around the restaurant. It made me think of the deliberate placement of that

Ok lets address the elephant in the room. I’m sorry you went through that- the name calling, the subtle digs and the not so subtle digs, the punches, the kicks and the injuries. I’m sorry for the sitting alone at lunch because no one wanted to hang out with you, for not being invited to the parties because you weren’t cool enough. I’m sorry for the person you really liked only pretended they liked you back.  I’m sorry for the guy who made you grow up too quickly. I’m sorry fo

Do you ever have a week when you feel like it’s one thing after another? However it’s not just minor annoying everyday things, it feels like there is something more to it, even if you can’t put your finger on it. You feel that these things are put into place to try and distract you or break you. You may feel like you are under attack. Chances are that you are under attack, a spiritual attack. I also use the term spiritual warfare. This is summed up perfectly in Ephesians: “Fo

“ Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah ” (Psalm 4:4 NKJV) I’ve always loved the word Selah from when I first read it in a Bible devotional. I was reminded of the word recently when it came up on Spotify while I was driving. Forrest Frank had released a song called Selah and my 8 year old son who was in the car with me got really excited. I honestly think my son is his biggest fan. I know where he is in the house because his angelic tones are singing a F

Ah yes! That age old desire to do something that you know deep down you shouldn’t do. You fight the urge and then do it anyway! Maybe after you feel guilty… or maybe you don’t… Whether you feel guilty or not you probably end up doing it again and it becomes a negative cycle.  “ but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death

Do you ever wonder why do these things keep happening to me and my family? Why do I have intense negative emotions that come over me that I can’t make sense of? Well you may be interested to know that the reason for this may be because of a family member you’ve never met.  There is a term called generational trauma and this means that the effects of a traumatic event can be passed down from one generation to the next. This can be when one of your ancestors was the victim of t

They hurt you, they betrayed you, they changed your life for the worse. For some that person destroyed your life. You hate them for what they have done to you, done to your family. I get it, I’ve been there many times in my life. When I first found Jesus the idea of forgiveness was the area I struggled with. This was because I was looking at the idea of forgiveness through the secular lens. The secular lens is forgive and forget… and that’s it! Forget the hurt and pain and le

"Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted"  Psalm 25:16 If I was to say there is a health threat that is affecting all walks of life, what would you think it was? Lack of physical exercise or obesity?  Well it is actually loneliness. An article from the Guardian says that the World Health Organisation has declared loneliness to be a pressing global threat. A US surgeon general, Dr Vivek Murphy, said the effects are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a