As a kid and teenager I watched the TV show Changing Rooms and laughed at some of their “interesting" room designs. If you are too young to remember the show, the idea was neighbours or friends decorated one room in each other’s home and then there was a big reveal. If you watched it, do you remember that episode where they designed the couple’s bedroom head to toe in black and red? During the reveal the woman burst into tears straight away and said it looked like a brothel!

Why did the narcissist cross the road? Because they saw a boundary line in the road and knew they had to cross it. Narcissists, narcissists, narcissists, it has been a buzzword for the last few years. Someone annoys you, they are a narcissist, someone challenges you on something you have done wrong then they are a narcissist. As a result of this happening, in my opinion, it has allowed the actual narcissists to get off the hook and continue their reign of terror because the

Picture this, you are in a family that’s so toxic that it’s unreal. There is gossiping, “ Did you hear how Michael got the money for his BMW? ”. There’s secrets upon secrets, you know the saying “ what happens in this family stays in this family ”. There is manipulation “ since he got that girlfriend he doesn’t want to be around us anymore, it’s all her fault! ”. Then there’s controlling behaviour “ I don’t care if you have plans, you need to be here at 7pm! ”. You name it, i

You may have heard of the recent saga surrounding a family that consists of a very famous ex-footballer and an equally famous former popstar. If you haven’t, then their son exposed them as allegedly being controlling with the family and performative. His mom also allegedly stole his wife's first dance at their wedding. Her son later described this “first wedding dance”, stating that his mom “ danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone. I've never felt more uncomfo

If you use social media you have probably seen the recent Druski skit. Druski is a comedian and his recent skit is him as a mega church pastor. Some people were offended and said he was mocking God. Others said he wasn’t mocking God and weren't offended. Personally I wasn’t offended, I saw the skit as mocking false pastors, not mocking God. Sometimes there is truth in comedy and I think this skit does that. It holds a mirror up to some churches and their pastors and highlight

Well it’s that time of year, what is called the season of Joy. The nights are drawing in, it’s cold and this year it just won’t stop raining! Now if you are like me, someone who hates being cold and hates rain, especially when it’s constant, then this weather and limited sunlight makes you feel a bit sad rather than joyful. By now you can probably tell that I don’t really like winter! Highlights However even though I’m not a fan of winter, I have to say that I have experience

I'm sick of the majority of people being selfish. I’m sick of people being mean and horrible. I’m sick of some people being just plain evil and revelling in it. I’m sick and angry of the stigma around mental health conditions and mental breakdowns. I just want all these people to know they are loved by God even if people judge and dislike them. I’m sick of people manipulating and hurting people and getting away with it. I’m totally sick of transactional “friendships”. It’s a

Do you ever wonder why do these things keep happening to me and my family? Why do I have intense negative emotions that come over me that I can’t make sense of? Well you may be interested to know that the reason for this may be because of a family member you’ve never met. There is a term called generational trauma and this means that the effects of a traumatic event can be passed down from one generation to the next. This can be when one of your ancestors was the victim of t

They hurt you, they betrayed you, they changed your life for the worse. For some that person destroyed your life. You hate them for what they have done to you, done to your family. I get it, I’ve been there many times in my life. When I first found Jesus the idea of forgiveness was the area I struggled with. This was because I was looking at the idea of forgiveness through the secular lens. The secular lens is forgive and forget… and that’s it! Forget the hurt and pain and le

“ He will never leave you nor forsake you. ” (Deuteronomy 31:6) I’ve been through my fair share of hard times. I can pretty much guarantee that you have too. Hard times can vary from person to person, it can range from struggling to pay your bills, a toxic job, to having a loved one die. Whatever the situation, large or small, the main thing is that it left you feeling sad, down and uncertain. When I’ve been through hard times, I’ve felt all the emotions- confusion, sadness