One day about 15 years ago my husband said something that I've always kept close to my heart since he said it. We were young twenty somethings, looking up at the sky, it was cloudy and he said when you see grey clouds remember that they will always pass and reveal the blue sky. Since that day, that message has always stuck with me and helped me get through some really tough times. When I wasn't a Christian this sentence was like a mantra to me to help me to keep pushing thro

Why did the narcissist cross the road? Because they saw a boundary line in the road and knew they had to cross it. Narcissists, narcissists, narcissists, it has been a buzzword for the last few years. Someone annoys you, they are a narcissist, someone challenges you on something you have done wrong then they are a narcissist. As a result of this happening, in my opinion, it has allowed the actual narcissists to get off the hook and continue their reign of terror because the

Picture this, you are in a family that’s so toxic that it’s unreal. There is gossiping, “ Did you hear how Michael got the money for his BMW? ”. There’s secrets upon secrets, you know the saying “ what happens in this family stays in this family ”. There is manipulation “ since he got that girlfriend he doesn’t want to be around us anymore, it’s all her fault! ”. Then there’s controlling behaviour “ I don’t care if you have plans, you need to be here at 7pm! ”. You name it, i

You may have heard of the recent saga surrounding a family that consists of a very famous ex-footballer and an equally famous former popstar. If you haven’t, then their son exposed them as allegedly being controlling with the family and performative. His mom also allegedly stole his wife's first dance at their wedding. Her son later described this “first wedding dance”, stating that his mom “ danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone. I've never felt more uncomfo

It’s the call with the devastating news that stops time. It’s the discovery that you wish you could just cover back up. It’s the betrayal that cuts like a knife. It’s the rejection that keeps you up at night. It’s the hurt and pain that causes nightmares and flashbacks. It’s these life events that rock our soul and send us into states of depression, anxiety and maladaptive behaviours. Life can be beautiful and fun but it can also be very hard with shattered dreams or poverty

If you use social media you have probably seen the recent Druski skit. Druski is a comedian and his recent skit is him as a mega church pastor. Some people were offended and said he was mocking God. Others said he wasn’t mocking God and weren't offended. Personally I wasn’t offended, I saw the skit as mocking false pastors, not mocking God. Sometimes there is truth in comedy and I think this skit does that. It holds a mirror up to some churches and their pastors and highlight

“ I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us ”. Romans 8:18 Music has always been a big part of my life, I would say it was my first love (sorry hubby!). I remember from a young age finding comfort in music, as it allowed me to shut off from the chaotic world around me. I remember music always being played in our house. My music relationship started with reggae being played especially on Sundays. While my mom was

I'm sick of the majority of people being selfish. I’m sick of people being mean and horrible. I’m sick of some people being just plain evil and revelling in it. I’m sick and angry of the stigma around mental health conditions and mental breakdowns. I just want all these people to know they are loved by God even if people judge and dislike them. I’m sick of people manipulating and hurting people and getting away with it. I’m totally sick of transactional “friendships”. It’s a

Ok lets address the elephant in the room. I’m sorry you went through that- the name calling, the subtle digs and the not so subtle digs, the punches, the kicks and the injuries. I’m sorry for the sitting alone at lunch because no one wanted to hang out with you, for not being invited to the parties because you weren’t cool enough. I’m sorry for the person you really liked only pretended they liked you back. I’m sorry for the guy who made you grow up too quickly. I’m sorry fo

Do you ever have a week when you feel like it’s one thing after another? However it’s not just minor annoying everyday things, it feels like there is something more to it, even if you can’t put your finger on it. You feel that these things are put into place to try and distract you or break you. You may feel like you are under attack. Chances are that you are under attack, a spiritual attack. I also use the term spiritual warfare. This is summed up perfectly in Ephesians: “Fo

“ Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah ” (Psalm 4:4 NKJV) I’ve always loved the word Selah from when I first read it in a Bible devotional. I was reminded of the word recently when it came up on Spotify while I was driving. Forrest Frank had released a song called Selah and my 8 year old son who was in the car with me got really excited. I honestly think my son is his biggest fan. I know where he is in the house because his angelic tones are singing a F

Do you ever wonder why do these things keep happening to me and my family? Why do I have intense negative emotions that come over me that I can’t make sense of? Well you may be interested to know that the reason for this may be because of a family member you’ve never met. There is a term called generational trauma and this means that the effects of a traumatic event can be passed down from one generation to the next. This can be when one of your ancestors was the victim of t

They hurt you, they betrayed you, they changed your life for the worse. For some that person destroyed your life. You hate them for what they have done to you, done to your family. I get it, I’ve been there many times in my life. When I first found Jesus the idea of forgiveness was the area I struggled with. This was because I was looking at the idea of forgiveness through the secular lens. The secular lens is forgive and forget… and that’s it! Forget the hurt and pain and le

“ He will never leave you nor forsake you. ” (Deuteronomy 31:6) I’ve been through my fair share of hard times. I can pretty much guarantee that you have too. Hard times can vary from person to person, it can range from struggling to pay your bills, a toxic job, to having a loved one die. Whatever the situation, large or small, the main thing is that it left you feeling sad, down and uncertain. When I’ve been through hard times, I’ve felt all the emotions- confusion, sadness

“ The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit ” (Psalms 34:18) They’ve done it again and you’re wondering why you gave them another chance. Whether it’s a long term marriage or relationship that has betrayal through lying and cheating, or through abuse. Maybe it's the guy where everything seemed perfect but he ghosted you after three dates. You could be left asking the same question… Why do I attract men like this? Well the first place to look is how

“I am the Lord’s servant,” ... “May your word to me be fulfilled.” ( Luke 1:26-38) Letting God use you Now that you’ve read all about Mary and Elizabeth and are inspired by their determination, resilience and obedience. You may have also reflected on your past and your own personal trauma wounds. If you are wondering what on earth I’m talking about, then that means you haven’t read the first part of Your are Worthy. That's ok, just go and read You Are Worthy Part 1 and it w

“Mary was greatly troubled at his words” (Luke 1:26-38) You are worthy, yes there I’ve said it! You may not believe it but it is true. Sometimes our past experiences can make us think it’s not true. Our past can understandably make us lose trust in people, which can sadly make us lose trust in God. Part 1 will take you on a journey with two women called Mary and Elizabeth and how we can see them as inspiration in letting God use us to fulfil His purpose. In my second blog pos