When are you arranging the next meet up? Can you do me a favour? I need you to tell me what I should do about this? I need your prayers. You have probably heard these sentences from friends and family, which are generally the usual questions and statements we hear from them, nothing wrong with that. However, the issue is when the only time you hear from them is when they are asking questions like this. Some people are only around you because they want the things they can get

In the last post “ Wanna hear a joke (part 1) ” we explored all that is narcissism, what it really is, how it develops and how they manipulate. So by now you could be in either the “I never knew all this ” camp or the “ Oh my gosh (insert the name of your toxic person) acts like a narcissist!, what do I do?! ” camp. Well part 2 will explain how to deal with them and how to protect your mind, body and soul from them. So grab your tea or coffee, get comfy and lets get started

Why did the narcissist cross the road? Because they saw a boundary line in the road and knew they had to cross it. Narcissists, narcissists, narcissists, it has been a buzzword for the last few years. Someone annoys you, they are a narcissist, someone challenges you on something you have done wrong then they are a narcissist. As a result of this happening, in my opinion, it has allowed the actual narcissists to get off the hook and continue their reign of terror because the

Picture this, you are in a family that’s so toxic that it’s unreal. There is gossiping, “ Did you hear how Michael got the money for his BMW? ”. There’s secrets upon secrets, you know the saying “ what happens in this family stays in this family ”. There is manipulation “ since he got that girlfriend he doesn’t want to be around us anymore, it’s all her fault! ”. Then there’s controlling behaviour “ I don’t care if you have plans, you need to be here at 7pm! ”. You name it, i

Do you ever get that feeling in the pit of your stomach when talking to someone? It could be an acquaintance you met on the school run who is becoming your friend, it could be that nice person you met at Pilates class, it could be your work colleague or your manager or it could be your long term friend. You get this ever so slight feeling in the pit of your stomach because there was something they said about you that made you stop and think “huh?”. It might not even be someth

“ There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens ” - Ecclesiastes 3:1 The final day of our holiday came like a bolt out of the blue. It shouldn’t have really because we all knew the date of our flight home. However, there is a saying that time flies when you are having fun. We were in the sun, waking up when we wanted, not having to rush to do school runs or catch buses or trains to work. We spent the days having fun, visiting places to lear

You may have heard of the recent saga surrounding a family that consists of a very famous ex-footballer and an equally famous former popstar. If you haven’t, then their son exposed them as allegedly being controlling with the family and performative. His mom also allegedly stole his wife's first dance at their wedding. Her son later described this “first wedding dance”, stating that his mom “ danced very inappropriately on me in front of everyone. I've never felt more uncomfo

If you use social media you have probably seen the recent Druski skit. Druski is a comedian and his recent skit is him as a mega church pastor. Some people were offended and said he was mocking God. Others said he wasn’t mocking God and weren't offended. Personally I wasn’t offended, I saw the skit as mocking false pastors, not mocking God. Sometimes there is truth in comedy and I think this skit does that. It holds a mirror up to some churches and their pastors and highlight

I heard that in the USA there used to be an announcement that came on TV at night that said something along the lines of “it’s 10pm, do you know where your kids are”. I think it was to remind parents that their children should be home from playing out by 10pm. I’m an 80s baby, 90s kid from the UK, so hearing about this made me think about my childhood and the friends I made by playing out. There would be a knock on the door, then I’d hear little familiar voices asking my mom

Well it’s that time of year, what is called the season of Joy. The nights are drawing in, it’s cold and this year it just won’t stop raining! Now if you are like me, someone who hates being cold and hates rain, especially when it’s constant, then this weather and limited sunlight makes you feel a bit sad rather than joyful. By now you can probably tell that I don’t really like winter! Highlights However even though I’m not a fan of winter, I have to say that I have experience

I'm sick of the majority of people being selfish. I’m sick of people being mean and horrible. I’m sick of some people being just plain evil and revelling in it. I’m sick and angry of the stigma around mental health conditions and mental breakdowns. I just want all these people to know they are loved by God even if people judge and dislike them. I’m sick of people manipulating and hurting people and getting away with it. I’m totally sick of transactional “friendships”. It’s a